Helping your child say no: practise small situations

A relative asks for a hug and your child turns away. This is an everyday opportunity to explain that physical contact involves permission. Offer a genuine choice, such as a hug, a wave or simply saying hello. Your child does not have to manage an adult’s disappointment alone.

Practise a short phrase that fits your child, such as “No, I do not want that” or “Stop, I do not like it”. A simple role-play is practice, not a test. A child who freezes or cannot speak in a difficult moment is not responsible for another person’s behaviour.

Model respecting a no. Stop tickling when asked and help your child do the same with a friend. Practise asking a trusted adult for help: “I need help.” A child does not have to resolve every situation independently.

Adults remain responsible for necessary care and safety. Explain what needs to happen and offer choices about how it happens where possible. Choose one ordinary moment today to ask permission and listen to the answer. For specific safety concerns, seek appropriate professional support.