Complete crashcourse · 44 minutes · Adults
From your first date to living together: recognise what you need, express it and decide what to do when the same situation returns.
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Chapter 1 · 02:08
Distinguish your own choices from controlling another person's freedom.
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These fictional examples help you practise. They do not determine whether you should stay or leave. If you feel afraid or pressured, confidential support matters more than finding the perfect response.
Read what each chapter covers before choosing where to start.
Distinguish your own choices from controlling another person's freedom.
Say what you are looking for without forcing a commitment.
Discuss recurring uncertainty without treating every late reply as rejection.
Keep your own plans and be clear when you do not want to continue.
Keep checking mutual willingness. An earlier yes does not require anyone to continue.
Make expectations explicit and check that both people agree.
Ask for space to be heard and discuss each person's capacity.
Keep the issue specific and agree when to resume after a pause.
Discuss insecurity without treating permanent monitoring as the solution.
Discuss shared plans before agreeing on someone else's behalf.
Share the noticing, planning and completion of recurring work too.
Clarify what is feasible and whether a contribution is a gift, loan or shared agreement.
Discuss differences honestly without forcing promises about the future.
Look at concrete behaviour after a conversation and at your own part.
Make practical arrangements. When fear or coercion is present, confidential support comes before confrontation.
Prepare a first response, a second response and a feasible next step.
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Each simulation has different routes. See the effect of your choices, repair an answer and finish with a practice plan. The conversations extend the course; they are not literal video excerpts.
10 min · Chapter 4
Respond to pressure without automatically giving up an existing commitment.
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12 min · Chapter 7
Ask specifically for support and agree on a follow-up if the other person has no capacity now.
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12 min · Chapter 9
Discuss insecurity, privacy and voluntary agreements. Recognise when support matters more than continuing the argument.
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Reflect on your starting point
The self-tests on relationship boundaries and control and jealousy help you choose a practice point. They are reflective questionnaires, not a diagnosis or a judgement of your partner. Account and Premium access are required for these tests.
