Complete crashcourse · 52 minutes · Parents and caregivers
For parents and caregivers, from the early years to the teenage years. Practise clear agreements, support during difficult moments and repairing your own response.
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Chapter 1 · 02:14
Acknowledge a feeling while stating the behaviour you are limiting.
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These fictional conversations are practice examples, not a tested treatment protocol. Age is a guide, not a fixed measure of skills. Ask for individual support when difficulties persist or safety is at risk.
Read what each chapter covers before choosing where to start.
Acknowledge a feeling while stating the behaviour you are limiting.
Distinguish evidence-based parenting support from a single example phrase.
Consider whether an approach is safe, feasible and developmentally appropriate.
Examine what problem a rule solves and where choices are possible.
Match your guidance to skills and support needs.
Prepare your response: pause, understand, state the limit, offer room and act appropriately.
Keep your message brief and consider how to safely reduce the demands of the situation.
Make the ending concrete and help your child through the transition safely.
Protect the person being hurt first. Explore and practise an alternative once calm returns.
Agree on a feasible endpoint and a stopping plan in advance.
Make transparent agreements about guidance and discuss concrete safety concerns.
Distinguish limits on activities from support with fear or discomfort.
Explore structure and appropriate support without using food as punishment.
Make a task manageable and explore what help is needed to get started.
Limit unsafe behaviour without automatically making the oldest child responsible.
State what language you are limiting and return to the conversation after a pause.
Arrange a safe return first, then discuss responsibility and transport.
State a financial limit and listen to the need behind the request.
Respect a no to unnecessary physical contact and model this yourself.
Consider what you share about your child and involve them in that choice where appropriate.
Explore what makes an agreement feasible and when individual support is needed.
Choose a related response that is no greater than necessary and protects basic needs.
Explain why you are revising an unrealistic agreement and how the new plan works.
Discuss important agreements directly between adults.
Take responsibility for your response without making your child responsible for your anger.
Review the agreement, support and your own actions together.
Choose one agreement, appropriate support and a time to review it.
Compare how your responsibility changes across different ages.
Identify where to seek support when difficulties persist.
Choose one small change and model what you want to practise.
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Each simulation has different routes. See the effect of your choices, repair an answer and finish with a practice plan. The conversations extend the course; they are not literal video excerpts.
10 min · Chapter 8
Make leaving predictable and support a young child without threatening to leave them behind.
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12 min · Chapter 10
Discuss a feasible stopping plan, keep the agreement clear and repair a threat.
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15 min · Chapter 17
Arrange safety first, then make a concrete transport and contact plan with your teenager.
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The video discusses research and general principles. These simulations are newly written examples, not a validated parenting intervention. For individual support, contact a suitable local service.
Reflect on your starting point
The parenting self-test helps you reflect on your own responses and choose a practice point. It does not assess or diagnose your child. An account and Premium access are required.
